Every week I get questions from members, and sometimes I even get the same question from a few different people. I thought if I started this monthly column, I would be able to answer everyone's questions annonymously, and pass along the information and advice so all my members can benefit from it. I will feature two - three new questions every month and the topics will vary... including topics on sex, spouse problems, the internet, family, etc ... pretty much anything is allowed here! So if you have any questions that you would like me to answer, please send me an e-mail...

Love ~ Faith xoxo

Question: I'm having trouble with my sex life, I don't know how to fix it. My wife and I have been together for a little more than 5 years. When we first got together she was a wild one, she was into being with girls you know just having fun. Now we hardly have sex, this is partly my fault because I want her to start things and sometimes I just want her to please me, cuddle, and go to sleep (not asking for anything I haven't done for her a thousand times before).

We are happy in other aspects of our life together. I have trouble getting her off now sometimes it takes me 25 min. for her to reach orgasm and its not for lack of skills on my part. Do you think she is losing interest in me.

I want to be with other women on a regular basis because I know it makes our sex life more fun but now she is over jealous and if we have a fling with another she picks the ones I'm not attracted to.

I awoke this morning wanting morning head but won't ask for it because I mention that I like things like this in normal conversation and it does no good I don't want to ask for sex or have to be the one who starts everything all the time

~ Annonymous

Answer: Since I don't know all the details of the situation, I can only give my opinion from what you have told me... To me it seems that your wife might have a confidence issue that you need to help her overcome. You might find that in the past, she was confident of your love for her, and she felt good about herself... Now she might not feel so confident. Has she had a baby recently? gained weight? lost a job? Try to build her confidence back up... and talk to her. I cannot stress how important it is to talk about things together... Ask her why she does not want to play with women anymore? Try to get to the deeper issue... Take her out and splurge her a little... romance her... see if you can get her to be horny and wild again. I have a book that has worked wonders for the romance in my life :) Its called 101 Nights of Great Sex... you can find it here ForplayForCouples.com It will bring some fun back to the bedroom... I hope things work out... if want things to change, then make them :)

Question: My wife (of well over 20 years) and I love to look at your site each week and get ideas. We enjoyed your latest pics in the office.....and we get ideas for fotos and fantasy fun ourselves.

I may be a little different, but I love it when guys admire and tease my wife from time to time and when she poses and shares her pics with friends too. One of the most fun when she posed for a friend in his studio as I watched.

We liked the pizza delivery to you 3 gal party a few weeks ago and were thinking about trying one in a motel.

Do you ever pose with male friends as we have been talking about?

Ro and Warren

Answer: I'm so glad you have been enjoying my site each week! My husband and I also have tons of fantasy fun as you and your wife do. My husband really enjoys taking my pics, knowing that guys are looking at them on my site. I do pose with male friends often, and my husband gets turned on watching me and taking the pics and video!

Question: As a woman, do you enjoy a guy cumming on your face? How do you know if a girl will let you ejaculate on her face? Are there any clues? Annonymous

Answer: I remember the very first time a guy came on my face (and in my eye and hair LOL) I hated it! I was lot younger then, and still learning about everything LOL But the more I did it, and the more I saw how much my man enjoyed it, I truly did begin to enjoy it as well. I love to please my man and it turns me on when I am sucking his dick, to look up into his eyes and see how much he is enjoying it… and we lock eyes and he cums all over my face and I lick it up! That is a big turn-on! There are a few signs that a woman will give you to let you know that its okay to either cum on her face or in her mouth… when she is sucking you off and you feel you are about to cum… make sure you tell her, “I’m about to cum”. If she continues sucking you, then she wants you to cum in her mouth… if she pulls away and directs your dick towards her boobs, then she wants you to cum on her boobs… and if she holds on to your dick and holds it near her face, then she wants you to cum on her face… That’s the best advice I can give, as every woman is different… but it will give you a starting point…

Question: What is the best way to introduce sex toys to my wife of twenty years. Our sex life is great but would like to experience something new. I've seen many types of toys and so has she. She has even commented on some but I feel like I'm being selfish or thinking she feels like I'm becoming a pervert because of some sites that we share together but I feel like we need more in our sex. I think it would be exciting! Daniel

Answer: That is a great question! You’ve already done the first step… and that is discuss it with your wife! I can’t stress communication enough! Make sure you let her know you are completely satisfied with your sex life, so that she doesn’t feel like she’s lacking in anything, but explain to her you’d like to try some new things every now and then. Since she already commented on a few toys, providing that they were positive comments, then it shows that she has some interest in them! Ask her if she’d like to go to a sex shop with you so you can buy her a special toy that would make her feel really good… that would be a good ice breaker because you are letting her choose what she wants. And then down the road you might be able to surprise her with something that you would like to try… One toy that I have always recommended, and that I use myself, is the Rabbit Vibrator… It has two rotating heads… one that is inserted in the vagina, and the other is a small head that vibrates and rests on the clit… so she will get constant stimulation… Happy Orgasms to you both!!!

Question: Faith, I have been a very happy member of your sight for a while now. My girlfriend also greatly enjoys your sight with me. One question she has is about your grooming. When she tries to shave around her pubic area she develops bad razor burn. She has tried several different types of shaving lotions and creams, but still has the same problem. We have noticed how well shaven you stay and just wondered if you had any advice that might help here out. Thanks for you time. Mike

Answer: That’s a great question too! And one I get asked often… I used to get horrible razor burn as well, and nothing I tried seemed to help! I did notice that I got more razor burn when I used the lubricated strip razors… but even with normal razors I still got some type of burn and you could play connect the dots with it on my bikini line LOL So with a friends suggestion, I went and had laser hair removal on my bikini line. I went to a place called Affordable Laser, and it is about a 6 to 8 month treatment plan. You go every 6 weeks for about 5 sessions total, depending on how much hair you have, how coarse it is, etc. I would recommend this to anyone! It does sting just a bit, but I am a complete wimp on pain, and I could stand it LOL It cost about $400 total for the 5 treatments. The first trip is always the most painful, as you have the most hair to remove at that time, but it gets easier as you go. They kill all the hair follicles with the laser, and within the first week they start to slowly fall out… then you are baby smooth and hair free for the next 4 weeks. Then a 2nd layer of hair follicles start to grow back in, but considerably less than the first time… so you go back in, they zap those, and after a week they start to fall out… then you’re hair free again for about 4 weeks. You repeat this about 5 times until there is no more hair left, and you will be left smooth and hair free. They say the only time the hair might grow back is if you have a major hormonal change… new baby, menopause, coming off birth control pills, etc. I did have a little bit of hair start to grow back after a year and a half, due to a change in birth control pills, but now its baby fine hair, and when I shave it off, I get no razor burn at all! Good luck with it…if you have any questions, feel free to write ? Additional info sent in from a member (I have not personally tried this, so I can't verify)... apply baby powder to entire area, and then dry shave... you'll get no break-out and a super smooth shave.

Question: Dear Faith, I have been a member of your site for a month or so now, I love your picture sets and wish I could be in them. I live and work in London, England and work in a very male dominated environment. My wife has become less than receptive to my advances lately, I have guys at work, who although butch on the outside, quite clearly would be not repulsed by male attention. They work out in the gym almost everyday and they eye me up all the time. I know gay guys are very horny and feel I could get into their world, with very little encouragement. Do you think it's wrong to crave sex for sex sake, I'm not gay, but feel I need the release these guys will offer me. One guy is married, I cannot mention his name, has made it really obvious that he wants me, if I let him suck or fuck me is this wrong? I don't want to cheat on my wife, but with another guy, that's surely ok, isn't it! Thanks for your time, Gino from Milton, Kent.

Answer: Well, Gino, I appreciate you writing and I know it must have been hard for you to come out with your email. I always believe in the truth... I feel that spouses should not lie to each other, but first you need to be honest with yourself. You must ask yourself, is this really about just getting sex, or could there be a possibility that you are craving male attention and not wanting to admit that? Either way, I believe you must be honest with your spouse and tell her how you feel... lay everything out on the line and be prepared for however she reacts... its not going to be easy for her to hear, that you are lusting after men, but if she truly loves you, you both will find a way to work it out.... I wish you both the best, and remember to speak from the heart... Faith xoxo

Question: I have been divorced 5 years now. After I got divorced, I wanted to try playing around with males. This was a repressed desire from my teenage years. I tried it and I enjoyed some different experiences. I would like to tell my girlfriend, but I am not sure that she would understand that I have 2 sides. Mitch

Answer: I have always stressed having an open and honest relationship with your mate. Without that, your relationship is based on nothing and has nothing to protect it from falling apart. No matter how hard it is to discuss this with your girlfriend, you must be true to yourself. It isn’t fair to her for you to be doing stuff behind her back. And it isn’t fair on you to hide your true feelings and desires. You must tell her, and you must be willing to accept her answer, whether its in favor or against it... but you can't lie to her... I really do wish you the best… and I hope that your girlfriend can accept you for who you are!

Question: So what is the best way for a male to approach a sexy woman with such capacity and bodaciousness as your self?

Answer: First off, thank you for the compliment ? I always tell guys the same thing… be polite, be funny, be sweet… but above all, be yourself! Now I would be lying if I said that is going to work every time… but for a girl with a good heart, it will work. And practice does make perfect ? If it doesn’t work the first time, shrug it off, don’t take it too personally… and try again ? That is how my husband got me… he was a nice guy and I like nice guys!

Question: Last October I lost the love of my life, due to the actions of my so called best friend. His wife had mental problems and he ended up finding my soul mate more of what he wanted. Anyway he would come over and start fights and leave. I couldn't get her to see or believe that he was causing problems. My question is this, which is research also for my book. 1. What can I do to get her back... 2. Please define for me the difference of "being in love" and "love" Example: I love you, but I am not in love with you. To me it is either you do or you don't! There is no in between...I would like your opinion on this. Is this just a girl thing? Deeply Connelcted, Ohio

Answer: Firstly let me say, that I'm sorry that this has happened to you. To try to answer your questions... first, if your ex-wife does not want to come back, then nothing you say or do is going to make her want to come back. The more you push, the more she will run... If it was meant to be, then she will come back on her own... and if these people have been lying to her, then she will realize it, and might come back. You know the saying... if you love something (someone), let it go, if it comes back, it's yours... if it doesn't, then it never was... this seems to apply in this case... you must give her space and the choice to make her own decision. You cannot force her to do something that she is not willing to do of her own accord. 2. Being in love with someone is different than loving someone. 'Being In love' means there is a desire to be intimate, whereas love means you care about someone... ie. you love your mother or father, but you do not want to be intimate with them, hence you wouldn't be 'in love' with them... but you do love them. My wife left me about 8 months ago, and since she left, I’m unable to get an erection even during masturbation. Is there anything over the counter (not a prescription) I can take to help with this? Chad from New Hampshire

Chad, it sounds like there is an underlying medical issue that you should discuss with your primary doctor or a urologist. Anything you discuss with your primary doctor is under strict doctor/patient confidentiality and they cannot share that information with anyone else. So although it might be a bit uncomfortable speaking to them about this issue, they have the medical expertise to help you solve this medical problem, and can get you on your way to sexual happiness again. For your own personal knowledge, it is estimated that over 30 million men in the United States suffer from impotence and that 95% of these cases are treatable. For more information on this issue, please visit these websites that I have found that provides a good wealth of knowledge on impotence and erectile dysfunction:
* http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/impotence/causes/
* http://www.alt-support-impotence.org/info_frame.htm
* http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/dc/caz/repr/sexi/sperectile.html

Question: My wife and I have not had sex in years, so my only means of sexual gratification is of the solo variety. You are such a great looking lady, with wicked awesome legs, that I find myself masturbating to you more than any of the other Dreamnet & Webhoney ladies. Can you suggest any special techniques for jerking off that would give me a real mind-blowing orgasm? It's already great thanks to your incredible photos but I'm sure you must have some tricks up your sleeve that would make it that much more spectacular. Can you help please???? Richard

Answer: The best technique that I know of is the stop/start technique. Build yourself up to almost orgasm, and right when you are about to ejaculate, stop and let yourself calm down and relax. Then start masturbating again, and when you feel you are about to orgasm, stop yourself again and relax. Do this about 4 to 5 times, and then on the last time, allow yourself to orgasm. This will provide you with a powerful, almost mind blowing orgasm. This also works for women as well. Enjoy your session!

Question: Faith, I'm curious.........I was just browsing at the question's you sometimes get and respond to. I know you must receive hundreds of e-mails. You have been e-mailing me quite a bit and I guess I’m starting to get used to it. Does your husband like what you do? Do you like what you do? I look at your face and you seem to like it. Sorry for all the question's, I don't want to sound stupid,but I'm just curious......How can your husband handle you doing this?.Does he read all your e-mails or do you respond in privacy??? Have a great day....... Joe

Answer: Well Joe, that’s quite a few questions there... My husband and I have a very open and honest marriage. We both love what I do! My husband comes up with quite a few of the ideas for pictures, and he’s the photographer/videographer in most of my sets. The site is our outlet for bringing excitement into our life... we are able to do things that most normal married couples can’t, and because we are honest with each other and are 100% committed, the site doesn’t cause problems in our marriage. You asked how my husband handles this [my site], and he does that because he knows I love him and I don’t want to be with anyone else. He looks at this as my job... he doesn’t read all my e-mails, because he knows I would never hide anything from him. Most of the time I answer my e-mails in private, but occasionally he is in the room with me doing his own computer work, so sometimes he sees what I write... plus we both get fringe benefits from having the site... occasionally we both get to bang the hot chicks that I have over for photoshoots * smile * Its not a bad life after all!

Question: When will you have an archive CD for sale on your site? And what will it include on it? Mike in Indiana

Answer: I am currently working on an archive CD to be released sometime before Christmas... It will include 23 of my best sets since I've started on Dreamnet... including the never before seen pictures that didn't make the cut for my site, including blooper pics. It will also include 3 of my video clips that were available on my site. Plus for a special bonus... I'm including 3 brand new sets of pictures and 2 new video clips that will only be available on this CD, and will never be posted on my site... So it will have over 1400 total pictures (about 800 never before seen), and 5 video clips (two never before seen). Make sure you get a copy to stuff in your own Christmas stocking this year!

Question: I was curious about who the guys were in the recent construction photoshoot. Were they friends, casual acquantences, friends of your husbands, customers from the club where you dance? Did they get to cum? I'm sure we'd all love to hear the details! Jim in Florida

Answer: The guys in the recent construction set were close friends of ours... and we all came that day... some of us came in the photoshoot and some afterwards... and one of the guys came twice! That was definitely a fun set to shoot! I hope you all liked it! It will be available again, in case you missed it, on my second archive CD that will be released some time next year!

Question: My wife and I use sex toys a lot in the bedroom... and I was wondering what is the best way to clean them to get rid of bacteria ... Jack in Arizona

Answer: It depends what type of toy you are playing with. There are many different types of materials that sexual toys are made of nowadays. The information below should help answer your question, and to give you some help in choosing which toys fit your lifestyle better...

* Silicone toys: Vastly superior to rubber or vinyl dildos, silicone warms up quickly, retains body heat, is non-porous and easy-to-clean. Cleaning: Run it through the dishwasher or boil it on the stove (3-5 minutes) and viola! -- your toy is sterilized.

* Jellies: These dildos are made of a translucent, soft, and flexible substance that looks like it contains air bubbles. Cleaning: This material is a non-porous form of rubber that can be cleaned with mild soap and hot water.

* Rubber: Firm, flexible, and often heavy, rubber dildos are porous and often need more care to clean than the average toy. Cleaning: Rubber dildos can be cleaned with mild soap and water, but its best to clean them with a specialty toy cleaner, such as "Safe Suds", which can be bought at any sex shop. This will clean the bacteria, but will not cause the rubber to deteriorate, like soap will. Rubber is a porous material, and will retain some bacteria after time, so it is best to stay away from rubber toys, if possible.

* Cyberskin: This material is soft and supple, and looks and feels remarkably like skin. Cleaning: Rinse with hot water, or disinfect by putting alcohol onto a cloth and lightly rubbing (avoid soap or harsh detergents); to keep the silky feel, sprinkle with cornstarch or talc. You could also use "Safe Suds" for these types of toys, but I have not used them personally, so it might be best to ask the sex shop when you go there.

* Latex: Use only water-based lubes on latex, as oil-based substances will break it down. Cleaning: Latex is non-porous and easy to clean. You can use mild soap and water.

* Vinyl: Vinyl toys are light in weight, easy to clean, and come in many different forms and colors. Cleaning: Vinyl products are non-porous, and can be washed with mild soap and hot water.

If cleaning seems like too much hassle, or you want to use the toys with multiple partners, then you can also slip a new condom on the toy and change the condom before you change partners.

Question: When swinging with other couples or partners, I find no matter how turned on I get, I cannot orgasm... Am I doing something wrong? Anonymous in Pennsylvania

Answer: There are a few reasons that might be interfering with your ability to reach orgasm in these situations... The first reason, is that generally when you are having sex with your partner/spouse, you are not wearing a condom so the feeling is much more intense and you are able to orgasm without any additional effort. But when swinging with other people, you are generally wearing a condom, so the feelings are reduced. The other reason is generally you feel a deep connection, and this can be a subconscious connection, to your spouse/significant other, so this creates a subconscious block to your orgasm. Also when swinging with a new couple, or even one you have played with before, you feel the need to perform and this subconscious pressure acts as an inhibitor as well, so that you are not able to fully relax and enjoy the moment!

Swinging is a way to bring enjoyment and spice into the bedroom for you and your spouse. It is about having fun. If you are enjoying yourself, you do not need to orgasm every time you play with other couples. You can wait until later that evening and orgasm with your spouse when you are alone. The best thing to do is to discuss this with all partners and explain that sometimes you might not orgasm and that does not mean that the other couple has failed or not performed in an expected way. Let them know that you are quite comfortable not having an orgasm, and that you are having fun. By doing this, it might subconsciously lower your mental blocks and you might find you will be able to orgasm once the pressure has been removed.

Question: Do you and your husband have an open marriage?

Answer: My husband and I are committed and 100% faithful to eachother. We never do anything that the other does not approve of or behind each other's backs. We do swing occasionally with other couples, but keep those few and far between. We really enjoy eachother's company, but swing to bring a bit of spice into our relationship occasionally. And anything that I do for the website that includes another person, including photoshoots, is accepted by both of us, and my husband is always present when I am doing photoshoots or videos. We have a very open marriage in terms of communication and acceptance. I wouldn't have my website if my husband didn'tsupport it 100%!

DISCLAIMER: The information provided in this column is meant for informational purposes only. It is provided free of charge and Faith receives no additional payment for providing this service . Faith is not a doctor, and her advice is not meant to supersede any advice given to you by your own doctor. Please bring serious medical problems to your personal doctor, and use this column as an informational guide only.